*My apologies. At the moment I’m caught in this dangerous combination of busy and lazy, but it’s still Saturday right? I appreciate all the comments and feedback sent through by everyone and I will try to respond as soon as I can. Just know that I do appreciate it 🙂
Even though this blog is now complete I will always wonder whether I did justice to it. I really wanted to portray what it’s like for special needs children and their parents but each case is so unique I don’t know if that would be possible.
Even though I say it’s the “final words” it’s not quite final. I’ll always have something to say on special needs. I’ll always come across cases and want to share it.
A lot of people were very saddened by the stories shared and a few would like to help these people, however what I want you to bear in mind is that these are just a few of the stories I’ve shared. As I’ve sad before I can tell you stories and stories of the saddest cases. I come across so many that it’s impossible to help everyone. It’s something I have to remind myself of too, that you can’t help everyone and you can’t save everyone but you can do your best.
I urge you to make dua (pray) for them. Also if you would like to help special needs children in any way please find reputable organisations through which to do it (I unfortunately don’t know of any). If there are any special needs facilities in your area please visit them and find out if you can help in any way. A few special needs schools have Facebook pages too.
My personal advice is that if you ever get the chance please go and visit a special needs school. Your heart will break. I’ve seen wonderful special needs schools where teachers and therapists are so dedicated and how they do so much to uplift the kids. I take my hat off to those teachers and therapists because of the wonderful work they’re doing and because working in a special needs schools is so taxing and emotionally draining.
However on the flip side I’ve seen special needs schools where teachers are just there to babysit the kids and collect a pay cheque. Those are the ones that sadden me the most because in the end the children suffer.
Something else I’d like to mention as well is that yes special needs children do sexually abuse each other (if given the opportunity). The reasons for this were mentioned in one of the posts but it’s not purposeful (in the beginning anyway) it’s more experimental.
Sadder still is when normal people abuse them. There were cases of two special schools with boarding facilities that were implicated in abuse. The one school’s teacher was found sexually abusing the students. While the other’s house parent was found to be physically violent towards the children.
Like I’ve said before the world is a very cruel place for a special needs child. May Allah make it easy for them. Please remember them in your duas.
Below are just a few early signs to watch out for which may indicate that the child has special needs:
Many people are quick to brush this off and dismiss it as normal. It is NOT normal. Mothers are quick to reassure other mothers that late talking is fine and that the child will be fine. Worse still is when doctors say it’s ok. It’s NOT ok.
Late talking is often the first indicator that something is wrong. If a child talks late there could be a number of possibilities:
1. Hearing loss
2. Autism Spectrum Disorder
3. Pervasive Developmental Disorder
4. Downs Syndrome
5. Cognitive Impairments
6. Other (undiagnosed)
7. Delayed development
Those children that turn out to be “late talkers” as mothers describe, fall under developmental delay. Normal children should start speaking between 12-15 months. If they don’t that’s delayed. Please get the child evaluated ASAP. Best case scenario is if the child simply has delayed development, however it is still a problem because they will not be on the same level as their peers. This will affect their ability to socialise with others, their ability to learn and to communicate. It can also result in bullying and frustration. That’s why on the whole late talking is very serious.
If a child has pus coming out of the ear it is not normal and it will not go away on its own. It’s most likely an ear infection and needs to be treated with antibiotics. If left untreated it can result in a permanent hearing loss. Please don’t put your own things into the ear-go to a doctor. It is extremely important to finish dosages of antibiotics because if you don’t you can develop resistance to them. Then you’ll need something stronger. In worse cases (which we see way too often) people develop resistance to multiple antibiotics thus making them close to impossible to treat.
Also another thing is if you have pain in the ear please don’t put things like onion or garlic juice (or any fruit and vegetable juice) into the ear. I know people pass it around as home remedies but please DO NOT DO IT! In order to correctly treat ear pain you need to know the cause of it. Most of the time ear pain is caused by “referred pain”. That means that the pain is being caused elsewhere in the body (usually anywhere from head to stomach) but is causing ear pain instead. That’s why putting funny things into the ear is NOT GOING TO HELP!
If you have any dizziness/vertigo or balance problems please consult an audiologist/ENT. I see people advising each other to do certain exercises. Please stop asking doctor Facebook. Treatment is dependent on the diagnosis. Just because two people have vertigo doesn’t mean that diagnosis and treatment will be the same. Ask a professional.
If your child has been diagnosed with cerebral palsy please don’t just do nothing about it. Please attend regular sessions of occupational and physiotherapy. Alternatively if you notice the child looking a bit “floppy” (not meeting their milestones such as lifting the head up, sitting, standing etc.) Please consult a professional.
Other risk factors not specifically related to children:
(Shared by a sister currently studying in the allied field)
With septic limbs, depending on the severity, there could be severe joint paint like in septic arthritis where there’s inflammation caused by infection. From injuries, for example, there could be leg tenderness, swelling, loss of movement and pus leaking from the leg. If you experience any of the above please have it checked out.
Other visible abnormalities such as microcephaly (smaller than normal head), macrocephaly (larger than normal head), heart disease, scoliosis (curvature of the spine) etc. Will be diagnosed by a doctor. Kindly act on the doctors recommendations in such cases.
Ok now please don’t play doctor Google and self diagnose (except for the late talking which you should pick up). If you are concerned about anything mentioned kindly consult a professional.
If there are any further questions I’ll try to assist withing my capacity. I urge you to share this message so that people can benefit. The special needs children that have the poorest outcomes are those who were diagnosed late. Late diagnosis often stems from ignorance so please educate people by sharing this message.
On Monday I will post a message about future endeavours. In Shaa Allah.